Wednesday, May 23, 2007

Sarah's in rough shape. She received a weeks worth of radiation to the head and a single dose to the R. breast. No response. The last 2 days she's been in a drug induced sleep, the days previous to this involved periods of intense anxiety and pain, with few words to express herself. It' s so hard to write this next line. After fighting like no other, Sarah's going to die. Her Dr. thinks a few short days to a few short weeks. She' s resting peacefully, but she must be in agony. I just hope she's OK and finds some long awaited peace and dosen't have to hear the C-word anymore, Where ever this place is, it will be much better off with Sarah in it. She's got lots more love to spread.

Safe travels my love.


DK

208 Comments:

At 9:48 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

My thoughts are with you both. I have followed Sarah's blog faithfully and have been amazed by her courage, humor, strength and warmth.

 
At 9:48 AM, Blogger Suzie said...

I'm just devastated for both of you. You'll both be in my prayers.

 
At 9:49 AM, Blogger Chelle said...

So very sorry it's come to this. You'll both be in my thoughts and prayers.

 
At 9:52 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry.She'll be fine though.Wherever she go's has got to be alot better than what she's had to endure. She does not deserve this kind of pain.Hang in there Derek.You are her rock.

Martine

 
At 9:53 AM, Blogger Brianne said...

You will both be in my prayers. The world is a better place for having her in it.

 
At 10:01 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh my gosh, I am so sad for both of you, I will pray to keep YOU strong and Sarah in no pain throughout..Please keep us posted..I know Sarah has fought harder than anyone I know..She is an angel...

Keep strong, you are her anchor!!

Trista

 
At 10:06 AM, Anonymous tlc said...

I have followed Sarah's journey as well and I hope she knows how many people she has touched through this blog. It is so evident that Sarah lived her life fully and beautifully. I wish you both peace to ease the pain and hope to ease the grief in these last days. I am praying for you.

 
At 10:11 AM, Blogger Heather said...

I'm so terribly sorry. I wish Sarah incredible peace through the end of her journey. My heart is just broken for your family.

 
At 10:14 AM, Anonymous engager said...

I am so sorry to hear this. I am wishing you both strength.

 
At 10:22 AM, Blogger mrbunsrocks said...

I am devastated for the two of you. I wish Sarah strength and serenity. Derek, I've "known" online for a couple of years now - she's amazing, and you're amazing. Your caring and devotion personify what love and marriage are about. I wish you strength as well. Both of you are in my thoughts.

 
At 10:35 AM, Blogger Couz said...

All of my thoughts are with you both, Sarah and Derek.

I have no words for the sorrow I'm feeling for you and your families.

 
At 10:42 AM, Blogger Ms.Smarties said...

I am so sorry. The two of you are amazing people. You are both in my thoughts.

 
At 10:44 AM, Blogger Christie said...

Oh Lord - I'm so sorry. It's just so not fair. Stay strong Sarah and you too, Derek.

You're both in my prayers.

 
At 10:46 AM, Blogger JL said...

I am so sorry. You are both in my prayers.

 
At 10:48 AM, Blogger Marlene said...

my heart breaks for both of you. Sarah is in my thoughts.

 
At 11:05 AM, Blogger dinah34 said...

Peace be with you Sarah and Derek as you travel through this painful time.

 
At 11:12 AM, Anonymous Kim (AL) said...

Tears are flowing, words are not...You are right, there is always love and it is all that really matters.
With a breaking heart...
Kim

 
At 11:15 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

my thoughts are with you and my heart is breaking for you both. I'm so sorry I wish there were more words that I could try to say but just know many people are thinking of you.

 
At 11:17 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wishing you both peace and strength as Sarah finds her way. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

 
At 11:17 AM, Blogger ValGal said...

I'm terribly sorry. This is just too sad for words. Sarah is an incredible woman.

 
At 11:19 AM, Blogger Polkaroo said...

Oh I am so sorry! My heart is breaking for you both. Sarah has such strength; this world will be a much sadder place without her in it. Continued prayers to you both!

 
At 11:29 AM, Anonymous Raquel said...

I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

 
At 11:36 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am also so very sorry. Sarah and I met each other through this site, when she was asking for info on PMH which I attend, and we corresponded often. Oh dear I am so very saddened.

Bonnie Evans

 
At 11:36 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry. You are in my prayers.

 
At 11:50 AM, Blogger Carver said...

Dear Derek,

I am so very sorry. I got to know Sarah through the MPIP and her blog. She is a shining light. My heart is with you and Sarah. As ever, Carver

 
At 12:01 PM, Blogger Christy said...

My heart is breaking for you both! Derek be strong, and Sarah peace be with you.

 
At 12:12 PM, Anonymous anne said...

Very sad news. I wish you both peace.

 
At 12:22 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear of your last update, I have been thinking of Sarah ever since I discovered her blog. Derek, please be sure you tell her everything you ever wanted her to know, you only get one chance. Good luck, sadly I don't think anyone wants to see anymore updates.

 
At 12:25 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry to hear such sad news. With the strength that Sarah displayed I was holding out for a miracle. My thoughts are with you and your families. You displayed amazing courage as well Derek. I hope everyone can find peace very soon.

 
At 12:32 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

i'm so sorry derek and sarah. wishing you peace and strength during this time. thank you sarah for being such an educator and advocate. i will remember her always, and will be thinking of you both often.

 
At 12:33 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Derek

As evidenced by the immediate respone to your blog of May 23rd, Sarah's blog is a favourite on so many computers indicating the lives she has touched through her writings.

Everyday I would check her blog most times two or three times hoping for some sort of news.

Even though things were not looking too good, in the back of my mind I always held that hope that everything would get better. It still came as a shock to my systm when I read your blog of today. As so many have written my heart is broken.

I new Sarah during the time we lived in her community. She was a big part of our family and was like another daughter.

Sarah holds a special place in my heart.

In closing there is a song that comes to mind. It is a song by Josh Groban, on his first CD entitled "to where you are" Sarah will always be with us no matter where she is.

You are both an inspiration

 
At 12:51 PM, Blogger Romy said...

Life is so unfair sometimes. Keep fighting Sarah...

 
At 12:56 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so very sorry. My thoughts are with you and Sarah.

 
At 1:05 PM, Blogger Stacey said...

I'm so sorry. We pay so dearly for the love we have in our lives. I wish you and your families strength and comfort right now. Thank you for thinking to update the rest of us, at a time that must be so intimately private for you. Please take care.

 
At 1:29 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Please give Sarah a hug from Mike and I.
Her strength and courage continues to amaze me as does your love and support for each other.
Wishing you both strength and peace to get through this incredibly difficult time.
Sending love and support your way.
Hugs to you too Derek.
xoRaelene and Mike

 
At 1:33 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

You are in my thoughts.

 
At 1:39 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so, so sorry to hear this latest news about Sarah. My heart is breaking. Her courage and strength have been such an inspiration to her fellow melanoma warriors. Sarah's smile will be a shining star wherever her journey leads. I send prayers of comfort and peace during the difficult days ahead.

~Lisa~

 
At 1:43 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so saddened to hear this. Prayers are being said for you and for Sarah right now. Wishing you both peace, strength and love as you travel this road. - Rocco

 
At 1:44 PM, Anonymous Merg said...

I'm so sorry. I don't even know what else to say except how sorry I am. I will be thinking of you both and wishing you strength.

 
At 1:47 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry it has come to this. You both are in my thoughts and prayers!

Derek, stay strong!

 
At 1:50 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry. I have been a silent follower of Sarah's blog and have been deeply touched by the strength and beauty of her character. How brave you both have been. My immeasurable thanks to both of you for sharing your story, your love and your pain.

 
At 1:50 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

So sorry...

 
At 1:54 PM, Blogger Dr. K. said...

My thoughts are with you both, Sarah and Derek. I have no words for how heart-breaking this is to read.

 
At 2:04 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just keep talking to her. Tell her how much you love her, even though it may not seem like it, she can hear you. Say everything you need to say. I was in the place you are in now just a year ago with the love of my life. When she goes, it will be the most unreal moment of your life, but she won't ever really leave you. In a very profound way, you will always be joined. I won't say that you won't miss her like hell, because you will, but she will always be there with you in your heart and in your memories. Some days you will feel like you will never be happy again, but you will be because love and the strength you have gained along this journey with Sarah will see you through the low moments, and that love will never disappear, never. Peace to you and Sarah.

 
At 2:13 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry. If you can draw any comfort from the many of us drawn to Sarah, please take from us anything you can.

 
At 2:16 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry to read how she is suffering right now.

You are both in my thoughts and prayers.

 
At 2:22 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry...

 
At 2:41 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I can't stop thinking about you both. You deserve so much more time together. I wish peace and comfort for you guys. I will be praying....

 
At 2:44 PM, Blogger A Saleslady said...

I'm so sorry this is happening to both of you. I will be thinking of both of you and will remember.

 
At 2:50 PM, Blogger Jo said...

I am so sorry, this is very sad news. Both of you are in my thoughts and prayers. You are two amazing people.

 
At 2:51 PM, Blogger susanlumb said...

I am so sorry that Sarah did not find successful treatment in Buffalo.

As another Canuck, I have been following your blog and I can't tell you how much my heart is breaking today for both of you.

Please know how much you both mean to us at MPIP, and lean on us all you need to, Derek.

My thoughts and prayers got out to both of you,
Susan in Penticton BC

 
At 2:59 PM, Anonymous Morgan said...

I'm so very sorry that you both have to go through this. Sarah will be missed.

 
At 3:04 PM, Blogger ariberkana said...

I'm so sorry, Derek. Sarah will be missed. I only ever "knew" her online, but I will never forget her.

My prayers have been with you both these past few weeks, and I'll continue to pray.

Take care.

 
At 3:17 PM, Blogger Ms.Teacher said...

I am so sorry. There are no words to describe your pain right now. You are in my thoughts.

Tabitha

 
At 3:19 PM, Blogger Jen said...

This really effing sucks. "Sucks" is far too pathetic a word to describe what you're both going through, but I can't think of any word that doesn't fall short in capturing this.

I'm so very sorry.

 
At 3:25 PM, Blogger doctor T said...

I'm thinking of both of you right now. Sarah is a wonderful person. I'm so very sorry.

 
At 3:25 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Many are praying for Sarah's peace and your comfort, Derek.

 
At 3:40 PM, Blogger phdatc said...

Just another stranger in cyber-land that was moved by your struggles. I wish the time you have left to be peaceful .

 
At 4:01 PM, Blogger Nerdalicious said...

I'm so sorry you're both going through this. Sarah has been an inspiration to me - both her strength and determination and poise but also her message about melanoma - she's the reason I'm having some moles checked out tonight.
I wish you both peace during this difficult time.

 
At 4:06 PM, Blogger Lisa said...

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At 4:07 PM, Blogger Lisa said...

My heart and thoughts go out to you and your family at such a rough time.

 
At 4:29 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

We are so sad for the both of you and your families. Derek, know that you and Sarah are both an inspiration to more people than you can imagine. You are always in our thoughts.

 
At 5:06 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Derreck,

As so many hearts are hurting, include mine in the mix. No one should have to witness the suffering of a loved one----and this is just wrong, you both being so young.

Sarah loves you, cherishes you. It is a comfort to us to know that you are with her, and such a comfort for her to have you as her companion at this critical time and through all of the good times you had together.

You will both be in my prayers for peace and strength on this part of her journey.

CarolA

 
At 5:35 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Im so sorry to hear the news. You are both in my thoughts and prayers. I wish you much love and peace.

 
At 6:08 PM, Blogger medstudentitis said...

Oh Sarah. You will have left this world a better place than when you came into it. Derek, I hope that you are ok and have lots of supports.

 
At 6:19 PM, Anonymous ellen said...

so very sad-thank you for the update-everyone is thinking of you both right now and sending you support.

 
At 6:21 PM, Blogger radioactive girl said...

I am new here and spent all afternoon reading every single entry. I was a lucky one...had cancer and will now most likely be fine. I wish I had found this earlier, so I could have commented on every post Sarah wrote that touched me. I could relate to a lot, and Sarah seems like a wonderful person, as do you. My thoughts will be with you, and if there is anything I can do to help in any way even though I am a stranger, please let me know!

 
At 7:09 PM, Anonymous frectis said...

I'm so sorry :(

 
At 7:24 PM, Blogger Miss Melanoma said...

There are no words. I cannot imagine your pain, as I feel my own heart is breaking and I only knew one tiny piece of her.

Just know that she is a hero to many of us and her light, which was so obvious to everyone, will always shine.

 
At 7:35 PM, Anonymous Cathy said...

Derek, I just want to say that my heart is breaking for you and Sarah. I was so hoping it would be better news.

I hope there is family there for you to lean on Derek?

 
At 8:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am devastated for you both. I cant find the sense in this because after only knowing Sarah through her blog I am utterly convinced that the world needs millions more like her, certainly not one less. Thank you so much for taking a moment despite your pain and horrible circumstances to update those who have grown to love and root for her. We really appreciate it. My thoughts are with both of you and I think that she still knows that you are right there beside her. What a beautiful couple you are.....

 
At 8:14 PM, Blogger faye said...

Although today it brings tears...This blog, which I've followed for almost a year, has added life to my life. Gratitude.

...Peace to you both. Peace, Sarah, as you travel to places we don't understand. Peace to you, Derek.

 
At 8:31 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Derek, I am so sorry to read your latest update.
Sarah is an amazing person, and her spirit will remain with us all. Strength to both of you.

 
At 8:52 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Darek, I am so deeply sorry to hear this update. I think of you both often. I wish you so much strength for the coming days.

Irene

 
At 8:57 PM, Anonymous Alisa said...

You are both in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you both find peace and strength.

 
At 9:07 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to hear about this...I remember when she first came on as I am from just north of London,... and as always she was so upbeat. I hope she finds peace, and Derek, I wish much strength for you through these trying days..You are amazing...

Judy-Montreal
Stage IIIb

 
At 9:13 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

My thoughts are with you both. She will be a beautiful angel watching over you. Her blog has inspired me with her beautiful courage and strength.

Judy

 
At 9:47 PM, Blogger Liana said...

I'm so sorry. Even though I don't know either of you in person, my thoughts are with you both.

 
At 10:01 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Derek,
What an amazing gal. But,you've always known that.
Due to this blog...her ability to bring us into her most private life and make each reader feel as if she were writing to only them. Who knows how many thousands of people will read/have read her truly awe-inspiring words. The world, as you, has discovered her beauty, courage, humor,love and pain. I often check her blog, go back and re-read passages, and I forward it on. I've been so hoping for a diffent ending to your love story. You are amazing too, Derek. So strong for Sarah. I thank you for keeping us updated...even though we are strangers. And especially during such a tremendously difficult time. I know I speak for many when I say Sarah will not be forgotten and neither will you. I will continue to check Sarah's blog in the hope that you will continue it.
NYC

 
At 10:18 PM, Anonymous pazzo said...

I wish that tears could do some good. It's so hard to see a beautiful life end with such hardship. Peace be with both of you.

 
At 10:41 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dearest Derek and Sarah... I have only recently discovered Sarah's blog, but her clarity and courage have helped me in ways I cannot express. We have never met, but to me, as to many others, she is a mentor... an advocate... and a friend. I am grateful beyond words to you both, and so crushed by this devastating news. You are in my thoughts and in my heart.

 
At 10:43 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry. There are no words :(

Sarah has touched the lives of so many who knew her only through this blog. She has given something to this world which will live on for a very long time. I hope that can bring her some peace. She truly has made this world a better place, and I know that I and the other readers of this blog are more aware of our own health and bodies because of her, she may very well save lives with this blog.

You are both in my thoughts and prayers.

 
At 11:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't know you Derek, or your beautiful Sarah, but she is such an inspiration. Her warmth and fighting spirit leap off the screen. My mother has cancer (brain), so I know what it is to fight such a formidable foe. Sarah has fought the enemy with a grace and beauty I admire greatly.

You are both in my thoughts and prayers and I wish you both great peace. I am so sorry.

 
At 11:09 PM, Blogger King (Kathie) said...

Derek,

Heartbreaking and unfair are the first 2 words that come to mind.

Please take care of yourself, too.

So very, very sad and hard to understand.

Stay Strong

King (Kathie)
Stage IV 7/05 Liver mets

 
At 12:20 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

peace of mind
love prevails in your domain
strength and courage my friend
there is a strange happiness that brings tears to my eyes when I read what you have wrote.
my heart aches for the love you feel for your spouse.
you are solid
love Kev

 
At 12:44 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

How helpless we all feel....we all wish for a miracle to help Sarah...I am just heartbroken after reading Derek's latest update. Sarah, thank you for sharing your most private thoughts on such a personal battle. We will never forget you.

Stephanie
Ferndale, Washington
USA

 
At 1:20 AM, Blogger Noel Hastings said...

I was just introduced to your blog and I am without words reading this post. These things should be shared by a community and it appears you and Sarah have a large one out here. I hope the transition will be peaceful. You are both brave and generous to share it with us all...

- Noel Hastings
- Seattle, WA

 
At 1:24 AM, Blogger Shaun said...

Derek - I have just read all of Sarah's entries today after being urged on by a fellow food blogger (MrBunsRocks of Definitely Not Martha). It is probably rude for a stranger to leave any comment, but one is only insensitive to not feel moved enough to write something hollow like "you're in my thoughts". Both of you are, and I wish like many others that it was not this way. I don't think Sarah's life will be in vain. It is sad to say that the good die young and teach us all a lesson - I was told that, too, when my sister died 11 years ago - but we have to learn something from this. Sarah is lucky to have you and you to have her. Lots of virtual love for your household from NZ.

 
At 1:28 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Derek
Sarah has fought this battle with courage and determination. She is an inspiration. Our thoughts are with you.
Marne

 
At 1:38 AM, Anonymous grass said...

I'm so sorry - my heart goes out to you Derek as I know this is going to be a very difficult time.

 
At 2:09 AM, Blogger Clerk said...

I'm just so very saddened today. Sarah is a beautiful, courageous woman that has shared so much of herself to both friends & strangers through her blog. We've all learned a lot from her.

The love you two share shines through her blog, in every post. I wish you both strength and peace in the days that come.

 
At 2:31 AM, Anonymous JanetteT said...

I just can't beleive it...I have no words. I wish this was not happening..
My thoughts and prayers will always be with you..
I wish I could do somthing to help..I'm so saddened.
JanetteT from the Netherlands

 
At 2:39 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to hear this. It just isn't fair. I can't imagine the pain that you must be feeling right now. I am so sorry that you're both experiencing this pain.

I want to share something with you and you can pass it along to Sarah if you want. After reading Sarah's story, I have an appointment tomorrow to see my doctor regarding a mole on my shoulder that matches all the signs. I've been too scared to go and see my doctor to have it checked, but after reading Sarah's story, it's given me the kick in the ass that I needed. I want to thank you and especially Sarah for sharing her story, as painful as it's been, because I KNOW that if I hadn't been introduced to this blog, I would have continued to put off having it checked. Sarah has been so strong and I am just so sorry. I just hope that she can find some peace after such a brave fight.

 
At 3:59 AM, Anonymous Jaki said...

Sarah and Derek, love to you both. NO! I just don't want this to happen to you. You've both fought so hard. Peace be with both of you, and love, and support from all of us who have watched your journey.

 
At 8:43 AM, Anonymous Nicole King said...

My thoughts are both with the both of you. You will be both be in my prayers.

 
At 8:53 AM, Blogger Melissa said...

Derek, I am so sorry to hear your latest update. You and Sarah are in my thoughts and prayers. Sarah's strength and courage have been such an inspiration to so many people! And, she is so lucky to have such a caring and wonderful husband like you.

 
At 9:09 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and Sarah. She is a beautiful person with an amazing spirit. Tell her "thank you" for sharing her journey, we are touched and enlightened.

 
At 9:32 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a member of weddingbells, and that is where I read about her blog. I am so very sorry for everything you are going through. 1 post of Sarah's stands out in my mind the most. She loves her cabbage patch kid dolls. Please take care Derek, and be strong for her.

 
At 9:37 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I read this yesterday and cried. I could not think of the words. I still can't but I feel I should say something. So sorry for your loss and the world's.
-Katrina

 
At 10:28 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have no words. I am truly sorry.

 
At 10:41 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Much love to you, beautiful Sarah.

Derek, this world is transient for all of us. Sarah will be near by, supporting you and loving you through it all. I truly believe it is only a thin veil that separates us. Though some days will seem to drag on forever, it is really only in a blink of an eye before you will be with your sweet Sarah again.

All my love.
K

 
At 10:57 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I echo the feelings of everyone who has posted before me. My thoughts and prayers are with both of you. Be strong in life, death and love.

~Leanne

 
At 11:22 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I only know Sarah and Derek from this blog, but you have both taken over my thoughts. You are both incredibly strong people. I have no doubt that Sarah will soar wherever she is led to. Sarah's blog will live on, and no doubt help a lot of people.

Derek, take care of yourself and treasure every moment you were blessed to share with your beloved Sarah.

I wish I could give both of you and your families a big hug.

 
At 11:33 AM, Anonymous Chels said...

I am so sorry, I have been following Sarah's blog and I can't get over how brave both she and you are. My heart goes out to you both.

 
At 12:41 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry to hear this news. Though I didn't know Sarah personally, I remember her posts on weddingbells and I've read her entire blog. Her strength and courage are truly an inspiration to us all. You will both be in my thoughts and prayers in the days and weeks to come.

 
At 1:14 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have tears in my eyes. I am so sorry Dereck for you and your/Sarah's families. She is truly an inspiration.

My thoughts are with you at this time.

 
At 1:22 PM, Blogger Ferda said...

so sorry this is happening. My thoughts and prayers are with beautiful Sarah and her family...

 
At 2:35 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to hear this devastating news. Sarah has inspired me to make a change in my life, no more tanning beds and sunburns.
I will pray for you Derek and for Sarah that her journey will be peaceful.

 
At 2:45 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ever since reading Sarah's blog about a year ago you two have been in my thoughts daily.

Since the devastating news I can't stop thinking about strong she is and how much of an injustice it is that she has to be one of the ones who don't make it. This will truly be a lesser place without her.

Derek you are such a wonderful husband to support her so well through all of this. You really are a great husband.

 
At 3:23 PM, Blogger Enoreios said...

Damn. I can't imagine your grief. Sarah puts me to shame... So smart and so loving... I think of her frequently.

Be well, Derek & family. My prayers will continue.

 
At 3:24 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

My thoughts are with the both of you. I cried reading through some of Sarah's posts. I cannot imagine what the two of you are going through.

 
At 4:26 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am sorry this is happening to you.....I will keep you in my prayers tonight.....

someone who cares.....

 
At 4:51 PM, Blogger A proud granddaughter said...

My thoughts are with you both. I am so sorry.

 
At 5:27 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

My heart goes out to Sarah and the family during this painful and enduring time. You are all in my heart and prayers......

 
At 6:15 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you can find any comfort from the words of another random internet stranger I want to add my voice today.

I recently came across Sarah's blog and read the whole thing from start to finish one night last week. I was struck by her incredible spirit, grace, dignity, humour and intelligence. I find myself wishing that I had met and knew her in real life. I almost feel that I have and am so saddened by the latest update.

Cancer has also affected my family, so I know the journey Sarah and Derek have faced is one of the toughest there is. I hope that her pain is managed and the final days are filled with the support and love of her friends and family.

I wish for Derek all the strength he has shown in the most remarkable fashion. You are an inspiration.

You are both in my thoughts and prayers.
Mary Ann

 
At 6:17 PM, Anonymous soccer_gurl said...

What an amazing woman. So beautiful.

I'm also a member of weddingbells and remember some of Sarah's posts.

 
At 6:19 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sarah, you are an inspiration. I'm so sad that the beast has taken over you but it will never take over your spirit or the love that so many have for you. Be well my friend.

 
At 7:46 PM, Blogger Brad O'Brien said...

I just want to say that I am so glad that I had a chance to share time with Sarah in my life and that I will never forget the time that we had together. I am also glad that Sarah had someone like you Derek, with the strength to compassion to help her through one of the toughest challenges we could ever endure in life. Our thoughts and prayers are with you both in these hardest of times.

Brad and Rachel O'Brien

 
At 7:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry for what the two of you have gone through, and for what you're going to go through. No one should ever have to go through the kind of pain the two of you have experienced. Sarah's an amazing woman in so many ways.

 
At 8:12 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have never had the opportunity or pleasure to know either of you, but I hope you both know that your friends on weddingbells.ca are thinking of you, and praying for you both. I wish you both peace, my heart is breaking for you. Stay strong, Derek. I am praying and thinking of you both. God Bless

 
At 8:37 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Please know that your wife touched many lives, inspires courage, and her story has helped many more people than even she probably realizes and I'm sure has saved lives.

Your love and dedication for each other is wonderful. Please find strength in your love to each other and the life you have created together.

 
At 8:53 PM, Anonymous Angie F. said...

Derek, I am so sorry to hear this about Sarah. Be strong for her. You both are in my thoughts and prayers. Angie F. from MPIP

 
At 9:08 PM, Anonymous alicorn2 from WB said...

You're in my thoughts. I have no other words.

 
At 9:28 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Praying for you both.

 
At 10:11 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I read your post yesterday Derek, and it has taken me this long to think of what I can write that sums up my feelings adequately. I am so sorry about everything that you and Sarah are going through. I don't know you, but I can feel the strength in both of your words. Sarah has touched many lives - I for one, will pay much closer attention to my body, wear sunscreen, and never tan again. Thank you, for sharing her story, and sharing her inspiration. Her life is not wasted.

My thoughts are with you both.

 
At 11:02 PM, Blogger Sarah said...

I found Sarah's blog tonight and read the whole thing in one go. She is so brave and real and I am so moved by her courage, and yours. I will be thinking of you both.
-another 30 year old sarah

 
At 11:18 PM, Blogger Erin said...

Your family is in my thoughts and prayers right now. From the number of posts on this page, I can tell how much of an impact Sarah has had on so many people. Truly an amazing person. Derek, your love and devotion is inspiring.

 
At 11:28 PM, Anonymous Natlyne924/WB said...

Another silent follower here; my heart breaks for the both of you, and I want you to know what an inspiration you both are, and how you have impacted my life, and many others forever. You both will never be forgotten.

My heart and many prayers go out to you both.

 
At 12:17 AM, Blogger A girl said...

I am so sorry. You will be remembered by many, Sarah. Thank you for sharing your journey with us, for being so strong and honest. You are both in my thoughts.

 
At 3:24 AM, Blogger Cal said...

I got here through Medstudentitis' blog, and I just want to say that my thoughts and prayers are with you both.

I'm so sorry to read all this. I hope that you can find the strength to deal with this.

As I said before, you're both in my thoughts and prayers, even though I've never seen or met you before.

With love from England,

Cal

 
At 8:50 AM, Blogger Julia said...

Love, peace, and strength in this time.

 
At 9:31 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thinking about you often.

 
At 9:37 AM, Blogger celtic_kitten said...

I'm so sorry to read this, Derek. I remember Sarah from her weddingbells days... she helped so many people, have no doubt that she will keep helping in her own way wherever she goes from here.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you, Derek.

-->Ruth

 
At 10:06 AM, Anonymous nicole said...

It's been two days since I read your post Derek and I am still at a loss for words. I want to say something positive, inspiring, helpful, anything. But I can't and I know that.

it's not fair.

 
At 10:45 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dearest Derek

I found your posting yesterday but haven't been able to write. I am just so devastated for you both. Just the unfairness . . . . where to start?

I know you'll be going through the whys? and what ifs? And the disbelief that this is actually happening. I am incredibly sorry and just hope Sarah is not in any pain.

What an inspiration Sarah is - I truly thought if anyone could beat "the beast" it would be Sarah.

Thinking of you both and hoping for that miracle.

With love from Oz

Kristy (Kris on MPIP)

 
At 10:55 AM, Blogger Kristy said...

I first met Sarah on the Weddingbells board and I just wanted to let you know how she's touched all of us. Many of us have followed her blog and are devestated by your last post.

Her blog has taught us all not to take life for granted and to live each day to the fullest. She has also helped to educate many people about the dangers of melanoma. I want to thank Sarah for sharing her journey with us. She has changed my life for the better.

My heart breaks for you. You will both be in my thoughts and prayers.

 
At 11:27 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thinking of you both. Praying for a miracle.

 
At 11:34 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Another person that first "met" Sarah through weddingbells. I've read all of her blog & it's so heartwrenching... You are both amazing, strong, special people. My thoughts & prayers are with you.

~ Ginelle

 
At 11:55 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dammit Sarah, I thought you were going to beat it. You had the spirit, the drive, the motivation, the will and the fight. I am so sorry that it has come to this.

I would like you to know that you have touched my life profoundly. I have made doctors appointments for my husband and I to get full physicals and I have made some motions to better myself and my life. I've finally decided to follow my dream and go back to school. And you, Sarah, are the reason why.

Your blog has enlightened me, made me seriously realize that life is too fucking short.

Derek, Sarah said you are a fabulous, wonderful man and she's so fortunate to have you by her side. I'm so, so, so, sorry you have to watch this happen to her. It is so overwhelmingly unfair.

Somewhere, on the other side of tomorrow, I wish you both find a place free of pain and filled with peace.

Love from a stranger, touched by an angel.

 
At 12:09 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just started reading Sarah's blog recently. Her story is heartwrenching.

She's been so strong throughout this battle.... she deserves so much to pull through this. Thank God she has you by her side, Derek. You are an amazing husband.

My thoughts are with you and your families as you go through these hard times.

 
At 12:17 PM, Blogger the little medic said...

I found your blog this morning and spent a while reading it from the start.

It is such a shame and so very unfair.

It really puts my problems into perspective. I'm very sorry to hear things are not looking good.

I can only echo what others have said in that you're in my thoughts.

 
At 12:51 PM, Anonymous Zomer said...

My thoughts are with you both. I wish you and family strength during these difficult days.

 
At 2:53 PM, Anonymous pennylane said...

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you both... Sarah

 
At 3:31 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry. The strength and bravery both of you have shown is truly an inspiration. It certainly puts all of life's little problems into perspective. You and your families are in my thoughts and prayers...

 
At 6:09 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so very sorry. This is so very sad...I am at a loss for words. Stay strong Derek.

 
At 10:24 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

peace to both of you. thank you for being who you are, derek.
m.

 
At 10:40 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry. It really breaks my heart. I am not one to write messages online but after reading "hitched", I know that Sarah's message has been reached my so many, she will save so many lives. I am one of the converted who will be smarter about the sun.
My heart is with you Sarah and Derek and I pray for you both.

 
At 10:55 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I only know Sarah from Weddingbells and reading her blog. I am at a loss for words. My heart and thoughts are with you both and your families at this time.

 
At 10:59 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sarah and Derek, your love is an inspiration to all of us.

An angel on earth, an angel in heaven.

Please be comforted knowing that she has touched so many lives.

Cindy, East Coast

 
At 12:13 AM, Blogger chellebelle said...

My heart is breaking for you and your family, you will be in my prayers

 
At 2:08 AM, Anonymous Rhonda said...

This just breaks my heart. My thoughts are with both of you.

 
At 4:01 AM, Anonymous Bill In Utah said...

OMG .... DEREK. I cannot tell you how this has hit me. I also have followed both of your footsteps along the way and prayed for you both faithfully. My heart as of many others will be with you both ... no matter where that leads. You both have touched so many .... Thank you both forever ... for sharing and Loving. Peace Derek and Sarah. God's speed and blessings to all who have Loved Sarah and have been a part of this. Angels will be the blessing ... as she can have no less ... her spirit is pure, and strength beyond our ability to understand. Be proud Derek as I am sure she is of you. Please let us know .... when. tyvm.

 
At 6:49 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Still praying for you. There is a site where people can light candles. I'm going to light one now.

 
At 6:56 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

You can light one here: http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng Click on the SD initial in the middle bottom of the candle (and CA to the right) to light your own for Sarah and Derek.

 
At 10:10 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

As another WB'er who followed Sarah's blog I am heartbroken for you both. I am so, so sorry. You are both in my thoughts and prayers, wishing you strength and peace.

 
At 11:27 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh Derek,
There hasn't been one moment that has gone by that I haven't thought of you and your sweet Sarah. How strange life is that one can feel so much pain yet feel so much wonderful love. I love you both so much and my heart is absolutely aching for you right now. Please know that you are never ever alone...we're all in this with you.
All my love, Julie xxoo

 
At 12:56 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I wish you peace, sweet Sarah.

 
At 6:45 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you Sarah for being brave. God bless you and Derek.

 
At 7:41 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sorry doesn't seem good enough. Thank you Derek for being so strong for Sarah. Thank you Sarah for sharing your courageous battle. Please know you have made a difference.

 
At 7:59 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have read every word that Sarah wrote here. She said once that she didn't know if she would find her "cause" or how she would make an impact on the world. She does here with her courage and selflessness. She has given to many who truly needed to hear her truth. I hear her words throughout my days. Derek and Sarah you are so strong, thank you for sharing.

 
At 8:46 PM, Blogger sweet_de said...

My thoughts are with you both. May you enjoy the times you've spent together and cherish what time you have left

 
At 9:21 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I also found Sarah's blog through WB and I just wanted to let you both know that she has profoundly changed my life with her strength, courage and honesty. You will both be in my thoughts as you find your way.

 
At 10:32 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

My husband is battling stage 3C Melanoma. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

 
At 10:37 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey - i'm so thankful to have met and been able to spend time with you both. I'm sorry it came to this, really threw me when bryan told me the news. Keep your chin up derek, you are so lucky to have spent time with such an amazing women and she is lucky to have a man to stick with her through the fight. Love you both, your in my thoughts every hour. Keep truck'n, i know she'd want you to.
Louise

 
At 12:41 AM, Blogger ladyaurora said...

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you both. You are in my prayers.

 
At 1:17 AM, Blogger Charlene said...

I'm so sorry for you both. It's been so heartening to read the strength that Sarah has carried throughout this ordeal.
You're both in my prayers during this difficult time.

 
At 12:16 PM, Anonymous Mandy said...

I don't know what to say except I'm so sorry that its come to this....Sarah you are well loved and cherished and all our hearts go out to you and Derek...Be free my friend....

 
At 6:02 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sorry for the sad news, I will be praying for you both.

 
At 9:55 PM, Anonymous Jen said...

My thoughts are with you, Sarah for peace, and Derek for comfort. I as so sorry for you both.

 
At 11:10 PM, Blogger Ax said...

I watched my uncles suffer in agony from cancer. I hope the suffering is not long for Sarah.

There is some promising reasearch coming out of Canada - you can read about it thedcasite.com

 
At 2:25 AM, Blogger dearheart said...

*love*

 
At 10:50 AM, Blogger Allie said...

You are both in my thoughts and prayers. We are all sorry we can't give you more.

 
At 12:01 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Derek my heart goes out to you. Sarah has been in my thoughts everyday. May you both find peace and remember every charished moment together. Hug her for all of us but most of all hug her for you

Jennifer

 
At 12:39 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so devastated for you both. I have just started following this blog and am amazed by Sarah's strength. I have been dealing with infertility for 4 years and I gave this diagnosis the power to control my life and turn me into a very negative person. From reading about Sarah and seeing how much you both loved each other, I realize now, more than all the therapy and counselling that I've been through that there really is worse things that can happen and to live in the present and be thankful.

You'll both be in my prayers.

 
At 3:29 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I came across this blog a while back. Words cannot possibly describe the sorrow and pain I feel learning that Sarah is soweak now. She has been a fighter and a storng person. You will all be in our thoughts always. She has left an impact on many lives.

 
At 5:59 PM, Blogger Julia said...

Dear Sarah,

I came across this blog this weekend and was instantly drawn into the power of your words. I am so sorry for your pain and sorrow that you and your husband are going through. I am praying for peace and calm for both of you.

I was especially struck by one of your entries where you stated that you felt that you were meant to be a mother, that even though your purpose wasn't to change the world with huge change, by loving one human, you could affect them. Sarah, you have affect this life, these people here as much. Your love, your courage, your strength has made a difference that won't be forgotten.

*HUGS*

 
At 1:20 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

May all of God's Blessings and all of God's Miracles shine on your lives today, tomorrow, and always! Know that you are in our prayers. Sarah is blessed to have Derek and Derek is blessed to have Sarah. Most people will never know such unconditonal love in their life times as shared by Sarah and Derek. Derek you will always have a part of Sarah and you will be blessed for being such a wonderful friend and husband to Sarah. Sarah will finally be at out of pain and at peace - you had a love that most people search for their entire lives and never find. Please find comfort in that.

 
At 1:24 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

God Bless You both!!

 
At 5:39 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

You are both amazing people. As you are both going through this unimaginably difficult time, plese take some comfort in knowing how many lives Sarah touched and educated through her blog.

 
At 9:27 PM, Anonymous angel said...

Sarah, I sit here and wonder what to write, or if you will even get the chance to read these entries...But I am praying you will.
You both are in my thoughts (sarah and Derek) and know that through your blog you have educated many people, myself included. Thank you
You will be in my prayers.

 
At 10:25 PM, Anonymous Erin said...

Sarah and Derek, I've been a silent reader of Sarah's blog for a while. I "met" Sarah on weddingbells when we were both planning our weddings.

I wish you both so much love and strength in the days to come.

Erin
Port Hope, Ontario

 
At 8:41 AM, Anonymous deenarobyn@hotmail.com said...

Dear Derek,

My name is Deena Fields and my good friend Brandi has been inspired and encouraged by Sarah and I know Brandi is desperately in hope for she too has been in remission from the "C" word. I just want to convey my heartfelt sorrow and also my thoughts of peace to both you and Sarah, wherever she may go. My fiance passed almost two years ago and although only 29 was in his own pain. Even though his passing was tramatically unexpected, I don't think it matters how it happens and truly what matters most is the love you give them to take on their journey "home". Perhaps too soon it seems that Sarah will be lifted high with all your love and by all those that loved her and love her still. You are both in my prayers. They certainly leave us with the only thing we can hang on to, even though they never really leave us, its the love that lasts and stays until we'll see them again. God bless to you and Sarah...Although doubted at times, Faith and Hope can make miracles.

 
At 8:45 AM, Anonymous deenarobyn@hotmail.com said...

Dear Derek,

My name is Deena Fields and my good friend Brandi has been inspired and encouraged by Sarah and I know Brandi is desperately in hope for she too has been in remission from the "C" word. I just want to convey my heartfelt sorrow and also my thoughts of peace to both you and Sarah, wherever she may go. My fiance passed almost two years ago and although only 29 was in his own pain. Even though his passing was tramatically unexpected, I don't think it matters how it happens and truly what matters most is the love you give them to take on their journey "home". Perhaps too soon it seems that Sarah will be lifted high with all your love and by all those that loved her and love her still. You are both in my prayers. They certainly leave us with the only thing we can hang on to, even though they never really leave us, its the love that lasts and stays until we'll see them again. God bless to you and Sarah...Although doubted at times, Faith and Hope can make miracles.

 
At 9:59 AM, Anonymous Kristy said...

I have joined others and have lit a candle for Sarah and Derek.

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng&gi=SD

 
At 10:57 AM, Anonymous Laura said...

Sarah and Derek....I think of you both everyday, I hope you are both finding some peace. Though I have never really met you I feel like I know you, you have touched my life, raised my awareness of this terrible disease and shown me the power of love. Take care, you are in many people's thoughts and prayers.

 
At 2:30 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

thinking of the both of you take care

 
At 6:32 PM, Blogger Shannon said...

Nobody should have to go through this. I am so sorry, and I will hold out hope for a miracle. My thoughts are with you both and your families.

 
At 6:41 PM, Blogger Julie said...

You are in my thoughts and prayers.....

 
At 8:43 PM, Blogger Jacqui said...

Sorry, So Sorry that her brave fight came to this.

 
At 12:24 AM, Blogger Culinarily Curious said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. I just found you and Sarah, and I can tell you're both very special people. Know there are people out here you've never met grieving with you, thinking of you, praying that you find peace.

 
At 1:03 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Derek, I wish both you are Sarah peace. I only found this blog a few weks ago and have sat and read every post and cried and laughed. Your girl is a beautiful one, and I assure you she has touched me. I feel that she is teaching a lot of us about living in the present. Thank you to both of you for sharing your lives, please know important it has become to many people. Peace to you.

 
At 1:49 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't even know what to say. Sarah, I was a member of Weddingbells when you were, and I was also a member of Hitched when you joined. I always found your insights very interesting and looked forward to reading what you had to say. Someone just sent me the link to your blog and Ive spent the last few hours simply glued to my computer screen. Im so so so sorry that this happened this way. You are truly in my thoughts. You have left behind a wonderful gift in the form of this blog...really, your words are so inspiring. You really have made me think about LIFE. Thank you so much. Take care, wherever you go from here @-}----

 
At 3:08 AM, Anonymous Dancenut said...

My thoughts are with you and your family. I am so saddened that you are having to go through this horrible time.

 
At 9:09 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

My thoughts are with you both. I wish you peace Sarah.

 
At 10:46 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I will say a prayer for both of you today.

 
At 10:56 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

That is one of the strongest things I've ever read. Nothing about Sarah's journey can be described as "lucky", but I believe she's lucky to have you by her side during all this.

Wishing you strength and peace.

 
At 12:52 PM, Blogger dee said...

Derek I'm just trying to read all Sarah's blog from start to finish and it makes me cry whenever I come back to this blog. I went to high school with Sarah and just found out on Monday. I'm so glad Sarah had you for support and love. I lost my uncle and 1 of my bestfriends to cancer. My cousin is also fighting cancer right now.I am thinking of you and Sarah and hoping she is at peace.

 
At 9:30 PM, Anonymous mav said...

I wish you peace Sarah. Stay strong Derek, I am thinking of you both.

 
At 10:29 PM, Blogger Angie said...

My heart is breaking for you both and tears are streaming down my face as I write this (so please excuse any typos). I am so amazed by Sarah's determination throughout this entire ordeal and am appauled at what she has had to endure, as well as you Derek. I wish you the stregnth you need to keep on and I wish Sarah all the stregnth she will need as well. As it has been her stregnth as well as her loving husband which has seemed to do her so well for these past number of years. My heart, prayers and thoughts go out to all of you.

 
At 12:23 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so saddened by your story. My brother in law passed away 2 years ago, around the same age, and also fro malignant melanoma. I cant tell you how much I feel for the both of you. May you both find peace.

 

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